This sex act is on the decline – as Gen Z finds the ‘boring’ trend more meaningful

New data has revealed that a controversial sex act is falling in popularity, prompting the rise of a bedroom activity that was once considered “boring”.

According to the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare (AIHW), the number of Australians drinking has been slowly decreasing in recent years, apart from a small increase during the 2020-21 lockdown.

But our changing attitudes to booze aren’t just affecting our drinking habits, they’re also having a knock-on effect on our bedroom antics, new research has found.

Statistics shared by adult store Lovehoney have revealed that while 69 per cent of Australians have had sex under the influence, 51 per cent prefer to have sex when sober.

Sydney sex therapist Christine Rafe said the data showed “more Australians are recognizing the impact alcohol has on their sexual experiences and relationships” adding that “as a result, they are choosing to engage in more sober sex”. often”.

“This change shows that people are becoming more intentional about their sexual relationships,” Rafe told news.com.au.

“They want to feel present and engaged, which can lead to more meaningful and fulfilling experiences with their partners.

“Without alcohol overpowering their senses or clouding their judgment, they are also more attuned to their desires and able to communicate them clearly.”

For those in relationships, cutting out alcohol can have a profound effect on the partnership, Rafe said.

“Without the fog of alcohol, you’re better able to engage with your partner, respond to their cues and understand your own body,” explained Lovehoney’s sex and relationship expert.

“This heightened awareness naturally increases self-confidence, as you feel more in control and confident.

“Sensitive sex also promotes intimacy – when you’re not under the influence, you’re more emotionally available, which helps you connect with your partner on a deeper level. The clarity and mutual presence that mature sex provides allows for better communication, more trust, and ultimately, a stronger bond between partners.

The rise in discreet sex has also seen fewer people engaging in one-night stands, the research also found.

Australia historically has one of the highest rates of casual sex in the world, with 2023 data showing 64 per cent of men and 52 per cent of women admitting to having engaged in a one-night stand.

But research by Lovehoney found that 24 per cent of Australians who have engaged in casual sex have done so while drinking.

Of those surveyed, 16 percent said they had a negative experience during drunk sex, while 7 percent claimed they preferred drunk sex.

“I think it’s important to recognize that everyone’s experiences with alcohol and sex are different and there is no ‘one size fits all’ approach,” Rafe added.

“For some, alcohol can serve as a means of relaxation, but it’s worth exploring how sober sex can improve your relationship and personal experience on a more sustainable and long-term basis.

“Many people find that after trying it, they actually prefer sober sex because of the clarity, control and intimacy it offers. It’s all about discovering what works best for you and your partner and being open to trying new approaches to your sexual well-being.”